10-30-06

Dear Team Awkward,

I get an orgasm almost every time my boyfriend and I have intercourse, but I can't seem to climax from oral sex. My boyfriend says he loves going down on me -  he spends what seems like hours down there and it makes him feel really bad when I can't get off. It always feels really good, but something stops me from climaxing. What's wrong with me? Should I just fake an orgasm so that my boyfriend won't feel so bad?

- Karli V.

Dear Karli,

While we’re of the firm belief that a little white lie never hurt anybody, faking an orgasm is only going to prolong your problem, not solve it. Can you orgasm when you yourself are in charge, whether it’s digitally or with a vibrator? If so, why not bring those aids into bed with you? Let your boyfriend know that going down on you will get you revved up, then give him a vibrator to finish the job. You might also find that by being honest with him about your chances for orgasm, you won’t feel as anxious about the oral outcome and that relaxation will tip the odds in your favor. If he’s got the patience to go for hours, surely he’s got the stamina to see things through until you finally cum. Good luck!

-Team Awkward